Self Leadership: You’re Already the CEO of Your Own Life
This article introduces a practical self leadership exercise that can help you make more conscious decisions by using the strengths you already have.
Imagine someone told you today: “Congratulations, you’re now the CEO of the company.” How would you react? Some people would probably laugh. “Me? I’d bankrupt the company within a week.” Others might immediately picture something completely different. A corner office, a six-figure salary, business trips, prestige, making important decisions.
When we hear the word CEO, we often imagine someone leading a multinational company. Someone responsible for hundreds, perhaps thousands of employees.
But here’s something interesting.
Whether you’ve ever thought about it or not, you already make CEO-level decisions every single day. Not because you manage a company, but because you manage a life.
Perhaps today’s biggest decision seems almost ridiculously small: should you wash your favorite trousers at 30°C or 40°C? Should you finally send that email? Should you spend the evening resting or working a little longer?
None of these decisions will appear in tomorrow’s business news. Yet they are still decisions. They also might involve weighing risks, even if not a multimillion dollar deal is at stake, just your favorite pair of trousers.
Other choices carry much more weight. Should you accept a new job? Ask for a higher salary? Stay in your current relationship? Move to another city? Go back to university? Tell someone what you really think?
Every one of these decisions quietly shapes the direction of your life. And that’s exactly what leadership often looks like: not dramatic speeches, not standing on a stage.
But making decisions despite uncertainty.
Your Life Already Has a Company
Now imagine, just for a moment, that your life is a company. Of course, people are not businesses. That’s not the point of this exercise. But the analogy between life and a company can reveal something surprisingly useful.
Every company has resources to work with, limitations to navigate and unexpected challenges to solve. A budget, people, strengths, goals, weaknesses, unforeseen situations. So does your life.
Your time is a limited resource, so is your energy and attention. A good CEO knows they cannot spend everything everywhere. They decide where those resources create the greatest value. Perhaps the same is true for us.
The Team You Already Have
In the previous article, we explored the idea of Invisible Assets. The abilities, values and personal qualities that helped create your achievements in the first place. For example: communication, curiosity, humor, integrity, patience, problem-solving, persistence.
Perhaps you’ve never thought of these qualities as a “team.”
But let’s imagine they were.
If your curiosity were a person, would you hire them? Probably. Why? Because they ask questions, notice opportunities, keep learning. What about your communication skills? Your resilience? Your empathy? Your creativity? You name it.
Most of us already have an entire team quietly working in the background. The interesting part is that we rarely even recognize they have been there all along and ask them for help intentionally.
Instead, we often let the voices of fear, stress, self-doubt and urgency take the lead, because they’re usually the loudest voices in the room.
Yet, none of them are supposed to become your CEO.
Your Inner Boardroom
Many people imagine that great leaders know everything. In reality, they usually don’t.
A CEO most often doesn’t personally write every line of code. They don’t design every product, they don’t answer every customer email. Instead, they learn something much more valuable. They know which person should handle which situation.
And perhaps that’s where this exercise becomes interesting.
The CEO Decision Framework: A Self Leadership Exercise
1. Your Inner Boardroom
Take a list of your traits, including the ones you usually like and the ones you struggle with.
Now imagine you’re the CEO and your traits are the members of your “company’s” Board. So, you might have, let’s say, Communications Director, Curiosity Director, Humor Director, Boundaries Director, etc.
2. Set Your Goal and Find the Right Trait
Imagine you’re facing a difficult conversation at work or at home. Which director would you give the lead?
Well, most probably you want to clarify first what the goal and the risks are, and what you know about your partner. Maybe you want to save the relationship? Or do you want a quick decision? To solve a conflict quickly? Set boundaries? Say what’s on your mind? Relieve stress?
For example: if your partner is raging and your goal is to calm them down, you will invite a different director than in the case of a misunderstanding when you want to ease the atmosphere and have a good laugh after you’ve clarified what was going on.
Suddenly, the question is not so much about what you should do, but who should lead this decision.
3. Let Everybody Speak
Let’s not forget, feelings like fear, stress, urgency, are not your enemies. They might want to protect you. Listen to them as well, because they might want to avoid situations that led to failure earlier.
Just don’t give them the CEO chair. Because when self-doubt says: “I cannot do this, it will be a total failure”, your Curiosity can still say: “You mean, that particular way is not going to work. Okay, so, how will it work then?” Maybe your Communications Director will jump in: “Let’s just clarify what happened!” and then Sarcasm rolls its eyes: “Gosh, another meeting which could have been a message!”
4. You Make the Final Decision
You are the one that makes the decision, who takes all the aspects and tiny details into consideration: goals, risks, previous experiences and possible solutions.
And the most exciting part? You can decide any time to act differently in the same situation that keeps on recurring in your life. Because what if you find out that some strengths have been leading your life for years and others have hardly been given a chance?
When, for example, your partner is raging, you can now say, okay, I will send Impulsivity out of the room, he is always the one to lead, often to conflict. But what if I now invite Empathy to the table? Empathy hardly ever got a word; let’s see what it’s capable of. It might be inexperienced yet, but still could save the day.
Perhaps today isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s simply about allowing a quieter part of you to finally have a seat at the table.
Why This Exercise Supports Self Leadership
At this point, you might be thinking: “Okay, but don’t I already do this every day?” In a way, yes. You make decisions every day, weigh risks and respond to situations. The difference is that this exercise slows the process down just enough for you to notice who has already started making the decision before you consciously realize it.
Very often, the first voice that speaks is also the one that takes control. For example: fear, people-pleasing, impulsivity, urgency, self-doubt. Sometimes these offer valuable information, and sometimes they simply react to old patterns.
The problem isn’t that they speak, but that they often become the decision-makers before anyone else has had a chance to contribute.
This exercise simply invites the rest of your inner boardroom into the conversation.
Not because every situation needs a long internal meeting, but because sometimes, allowing curiosity, empathy, boundaries or long-term thinking to speak for just a few extra seconds can completely change the direction of a decision.
Perhaps self leadership isn’t about becoming someone else, it’s more about choosing more consciously which part of you gets to lead.
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