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What is self-worth really? Imagine two people: one has just received a long-awaited promotion, the other has just lost their job. Which one is more valuable? Most of us immediately know the answer: neither. A promotion can change many things. It can change your income, your daily routine, your responsibilities, or even your confidence. But…

The Versions of Yourself You Learned to Perform Have you ever felt like you had to earn your value? Maybe you’ve stayed late at work because you didn’t want to disappoint anyone. Maybe you found yourself saying “yes” when you really wanted to say “no.” Maybe you’ve spent hours helping someone else, while quietly ignoring…

Have you ever avoided something because the fear of failure felt scary? Maybe you’ve postponed applying for a new job, delayed launching a project you’ve been dreaming about, or avoided speaking up in a meeting. Or, you decided not to try at all because failing somehow felt worse than wondering what might have happened. From…

Have you ever felt the need for certainty, when you felt like you just needed an answer? “I just need to know what’s going on.” “I wish someone would just tell me.” “Once I know, I’ll finally feel better.” Whether it’s waiting for medical test results, hearing back after a job interview, wondering why someone…

Have you ever noticed yourself slipping into avoidance, even when you knew you should do something? Maybe it was a task you kept postponing, a difficult conversation, an email you didn’t want to open, or medical test results you weren’t ready to read. Maybe you kept telling yourself: “I’ll deal with it tomorrow.” From the…

The human brain has a natural need for certainty, especially when information is incomplete. Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable it feels not knowing? For example: a friend hasn’t replied to your message. Your boss asks if you can meet tomorrow. Your partner seems quieter than usual. Nothing has actually happened yet and maybe nothing…

Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind comes up with an explanation, even when you don’t actually know what happened? A friend doesn’t reply to your message. Your boss says, “Can we talk tomorrow?” Your partner has been quieter than usual. None of these situations tells the whole story, yet you may already have…

Feelings are not facts, but many of us treat them as if they were. Have you ever noticed how quickly a feeling can turn into a conclusion? Your partner takes longer than usual to reply to a message. You feel disappointed. Then worried. Then rejected. Before long, you might find yourself wondering whether something is…

Have you ever felt something, only to immediately start convincing yourself that you shouldn’t feel that way? The problem may not be that you ignore your feelings, but you may struggle to trust your emotions. Maybe someone’s comment hurt you, or you simply felt exhausted after a long week. Maybe you felt uncomfortable around someone,…

Have you ever noticed yourself explaining yourself even when nobody asked for an explanation? Maybe you’re visiting an old friend who lives far away. Or you’re taking a day off. Maybe you decided to leave a job, decline an invitation, or spend money on something you genuinely wanted. The choice itself is not particularly controversial;…